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I met my first ftm trans friend about 6 or 7 years ago. At the time it was an entirely new concept to me, and “unnatural” only in the sense that I still saw gender as binary. It felt very much like a swap to me and took a while to get used to. About the same time I met another friend that “swapped” back and forth every so often depending on situational issues. This was when I learned about gender fluidity. These were both online friends and still only affected me as often as we spoke. Then I met Konnor. And learned a lot more. And failed miserably at pronouns until, one day, it clicked. See, I knew each time I fucked up, but 25 years of habit and indoctrination make it hard to remember pronouns. I was blessed, my trans friends were patient and answered questions. Please be patient with those of us that haven’t been exposed. Answer honest question, be clear with boundaries. Jumping down our throats when we mess up or don’t get it isn’t helping anyone or anything. Konnor would tell me, “good girl,” when I started adjusting my she’s and hers to he’s and his’s. He was gentle at corrrecting me and never embarrassed me in front of people, even though I fucked up and surely made things hard for him when I mixed it up in front of people. Recently, someone I follow posted a message about target respectfully honoring his choice of preferred name and his actual gender, instead of body gender, and how great it felt. Why can’t we all just respect who people are instead of what they look like. Anyway, I just want to encourage my trans friends, there are those of us that just don’t know, that want to be respectful and get it right. Be patient with us, answer questions or point us to answers. Now I have many trans friends, and I almost never fuck up. I feel like I’m at the point now where I don’t see Konnor as ftm, or trans. I see him as a boy, a man, my little brother. That goes for my other trans friends as well. We can get the right frame of mind, we can change our thought processes. Ok. I’m done. Ily.
Today’s program addresses personhood rights of fertilized eggs, embryos and fetuses. There have been cases where pregnant women have been arrested and/or subjected to medical intervention (without consent) if law officials decide the fetus is endangered. The Personhood Movement supports the view that fetuses have the same constitutional rights as the mother.
Our three guests are Lynn Paltrow, the Executive Director of the National Advocates for Pregnant Women, Jennifer Mason, a leader for Personhood USA, and Dr. Barbara Levy, the Vice President of the American College of OB-GYNs.
If [Personhood USA] succeeds and fertilized eggs, embryos and fetuses are recognized as separate persons under the law … You could essentially have every pregnant woman subject to a person who is entitled to her medical records, who is entitled to require her to undergo whatever medical procedure is best for her, have her arrested if she doesn’t obey.
The question all of these cases pose — the question that the Personhood USA really raises – is: As a society, do we believe that there is a point in pregnancy where women lose their civil rights?
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